Resisistance is a sign of lack of rapport 2
When you're in an akward situation, remember to ask yourself if you really need to be there. (*there's a difference between needs and wants, check footnotes) If your answer is no, move on. Go read a book or something :) If it's yes, then something interesting happens
What's the true test of an educated man? No, It's not in the no. of PhD's he holds nor his ability to built a rocket and send it into space. It's really quite simple, yet profound...
It's a person who's able to entertain
3 things. In no particular order they are. (1) an idea
, (2) another person
& (3) himself
. I'll get to these in a later chapter. In the meantime...
There's good news! These can be learned...
A great way to entertain
a stranger is to make a simple statement in an "as a matter of fact" fashion... Nice shoes... Where did you get them? or Nice color... where did you get those shoes? It's important to say it as if you're stating the obvious, "by the way.. cool tie" casual
and uneventful. Anything sounding more may be over the top stalker like, but... it's all in the name of fun.
Enjoy yourself, isn't the world a much better place when everyone uses this one line if nothing else? Wouldn't it be cool if some stranger came up to you sounding genuinely warm like that?
By this time, you already know from their response if you'd like to continue the conversation or move on. A good line to use to move on, or to break away from your victim could be an excuse to go to the loo or an excuse to take a call. Hold your hand phone out for a better effect. I hallucinate that you've already done this before... Don't get me wrong, they are not literally your victim nor am I suffering from a bout of somethingy but importantly, the metaphor I use to get into a right frame of mind
. Can you imagine what it would be like for someone to approach you halucinating that perhaps, he's intruding on your space? It would kinda be as if tiny mickey mouse came up to you, squeeking. Get the picture?
By the way, if you're wondering about the dots ..... they are time lapses. Each dot denotes 1/3 of a second. This would give you a sense and a feel of time as you're reading this.....
*need - something you preceive as a requirement
*want - something you're after, it may or may not be something good for you
As you move along, talking and listening to your subject you may or may not want to exercise and improve on your rapport building skills
, depending on the outcome you want to have.
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