NLP - Language Patterns - 3 Examples
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NLP - Language Patterns - 3 Examples

They are about 20 Hypnotic Language Patterns. In this article, I'd like to address three of the most common ones.

1. Cause and Effect
2. The use of words such as 'should', 'must' and 'have to'
3. The use of a lot of negativity in your Internal Representation

1. Cause and Effect

This implies blame, that is, someone 'made' you do something or made you feel something.
For example:

a. "Every time she talks to me in that tone of voice, she makes me mad."
No one can make you anything. You choose to be 'mad', working from your Internal Representations (IRs) and perceived expected behaviour.

b. "Because he shouted at me, he made me do it all wrong."
Again, his shouting cannot make you do anything; your Internal Representations are triggering that reaction. I'm sure you have witnessed a scene when someone has really reacted to a situation, and you were unmoved by it, wondering why that other person was so worked up and was making all that fuss.

In actual fact, the word blame should be deleted and annihilated from our daily vocabulary, and if it must exist at all, the word blame should be relegated to fiction writing, simply to add emotional contrast.
The word blame and its accompanying physical manifestations should never be part of your daily life.
The emotion of blame is destructive and counter-productive.

2. The use of words such as 'should', 'must' and 'have to'

a. I should do this because others seem to like it.
If you feel you should to be doing something, because it seems to please others, you are trying to live and act according to other people's values and are compromising your own values. What you are actually doing is, you are comparing yourself to want you perceive to be other people's expectations, and indeed devaluing yourself.

As Dr. John Demartini would say, you are putting someone else on a pedestal and putting yourself into the pit.

You do not have to do anything that goes against your value system, you always have a choice.

3. Use of a lot of negativity in your Internal Representations

Examples of negativity in your internal representations are endless.
a. "I've never been good at that."
b. "I always get that wrong."
c. "Everyone can do it, except me."
d. "I'm such klutz."
e. "I know I'll never amount to much."
f. "I can have dreams but I know they'll never come true."
g. "Life is just one series of challenges after another."

Do you get the point?

These are referred to as Limiting Beliefs, and if you are not careful, and you repeatedly say such negative statements about yourself, they will more than likely become self-fulfilling prophecies.

In a nutshell, watch your language; watch what you say internally, in your mind and externally, to others.
Don't get involved in the negative conversations of others; move away from such people when they start talking negatively and putting others down, if you feel you can't stay out of it in their presence.
The whole course of your life depends on it.

Gloria M Hamilten is a recognized authority in disciplines within Personal Development and People Skills for Business Professionals, such as Time Management, Negotiation Skills, Developing High-Performance Teams, Assertion Skills, Building International Rapport, Conflict Management and Resolution, Presentation and Platform Skills.

Her studies in Neuro-Linguistic Programming and Psychology have lead to her researching brain disorders such as AD-HD and its relations.

She has her own training business, and conducts courses for Corporate Organizations, Sporting groups and Tertiary Educational Institutions in Australia.

Her professional experience covers over 30 years of study, research, one-on-one coaching, group coaching, presentations and workshops. Her clientele includes children as well as adults.

Gloria Hamilten has authored the eBook: "Successful Self-Hypnosis" and many Reports and online articles.
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